He tangata – it’s the people

Here in New Zealand, there’s a Maori proverb which ponders what is the most important thing in the world. Their answer is ‘he tangata, he tangata, he tangata’ – it is the people, the people, the people. People here, I’ve found, are warm and friendly,

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Just the way you are

This morning in meditation the words of the song “I love you just the way you are…’ came, which got me pondering… How willing are you to let people be themselves and love them just the way they are? What expectations do you have of

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Joy in simplicity

D’you ever stop to reflect on how you live, your way of being? Are you someone who is busy, busy, constantly multi-tasking, your mind jumping around a constantly expanding to-do list, worrying about this or that, feeling stressed, overloaded? Or, do you take each day

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Connecting to your joy.

Some people, it seems, find it hard to be happy – they are happy being miserable! Never satisfied with the status quo, never one hundred per cent at home anywhere, always worrying about this or that. They might not like to admit it, however, what

Read More

True joy

In our last blog, we touched on the topic of choosing to be joyful rather than be angry and reactive, or, live in grief and pain. What is joy? Thinking of joy, we might remember occasions when we felt really happy, when we felt a

Read More

Choose joy!

Learning to respond rather than react  – how do you do that, you might ask?  It’s all about managing our emotions, then taking responsiblity and focusing on how we want to be. Unless we had an extraordinary parent or teacher, most of us don’t learn

Read More

D’you react or respond?

What’s your way – d’you tend to react, or, respond to life? Recently we’ve been looking at how expectations can result in frustration and disappointment, at how the beliefs that fuel our expectations keep us in a box, limiting our choices. When we don’t achieve

Read More

Loving messages

How aware are you of the messages you give to your children? How do you show delight in your child? We all know that our children feel valued and loved when we give them our warmth, love and attention and show delight in who they

Read More

Nurturing creativity

These past few weeks, we’ve been looking at the topic of parenting. Our role as parents, I see, is to prepare our children for life, teaching them to be responsible and care for themselves and the world around them. Throughout the process, we can look

Read More

Our essential nature.

When you look at a new born baby, what do you see? I see innocence, pure light, love, joy… and infinite possibilities. I see a diamond! Like the precious stone, babies come in different sizes, colours and cuts and they have many different facets. Our

Read More

All we need is love

These past few weeks we’ve been looking at one of the challenges of parenting – taking action, asking for support, when your intuition tells you that something needs attention and you have no idea where that might lead. What can stop us from taking action?

Read More

A moment of choice

Our daughter went to boarding school in England when she was 10 going on 11. There, she was bullied for a number of years. Not interested in clothes, make-up or boys, she was marginalised and attributed with being either ‘weird’ or ‘gay’. The fact that

Read More

A mother’s intuition

We’ve all heard the expression a ‘mother’s intuition’ and typically we understand this to mean that a mother ‘knows’ when something is amiss. What I’ve learned is that it’s one thing to hear our intuition, it can be quite another to find the courage to

Read More

Taking care of diamonds – our children

Most parents say that parenting is one of the most rewarding jobs in the world – and it can be one of the toughest. It doesn’t come with an instruction manual! Caring for a child who is seen to be ‘different’ or who has an

Read More

Speaking up

The key to any relationship, personal or professional, is to be our self and be able manage any differences. ‘Be all things unto all men’ encourages us to be seen for who we are so that people recognise who we are and the calibre of

Read More

Conflict – or – opportunity to understand?

What is your pattern when it comes to managing differences with others?  Do you … tend to stand your ground and blame the other do everything to avoid conflict look for a compromise see an opportunity to clarify and understand the other more, to collaborate

Read More

Finding a way – when the children leave home

Children leave home for different reasons – to go to boarding school or university, to live with a partner, to live independently, perhaps even to escape mum and dad. Most of us long to see our children happy, independent, confident yet when the day comes

Read More

Finding a way …through divorce

You feel exhausted, you don’t know what to do next, you just want to find a way out of the chaos. Your partner has just announced they no longer want to stay in your relationship. You don’t know how you will ever survive alone. You’ve

Read More

He tangata – it’s the people

Here in New Zealand, there’s a Maori proverb which ponders what is the most important thing in the world. Their answer is ‘he tangata, he tangata, he tangata’ – it is the people, the people, the people. People here, I’ve found, are warm and friendly,

Read More

Just the way you are

This morning in meditation the words of the song “I love you just the way you are…’ came, which got me pondering… How willing are you to let people be themselves and love them just the way they are? What expectations do you have of

Read More

Joy in simplicity

D’you ever stop to reflect on how you live, your way of being? Are you someone who is busy, busy, constantly multi-tasking, your mind jumping around a constantly expanding to-do list, worrying about this or that, feeling stressed, overloaded? Or, do you take each day

Read More

Connecting to your joy.

Some people, it seems, find it hard to be happy – they are happy being miserable! Never satisfied with the status quo, never one hundred per cent at home anywhere, always worrying about this or that. They might not like to admit it, however, what

Read More

True joy

In our last blog, we touched on the topic of choosing to be joyful rather than be angry and reactive, or, live in grief and pain. What is joy? Thinking of joy, we might remember occasions when we felt really happy, when we felt a

Read More

Choose joy!

Learning to respond rather than react  – how do you do that, you might ask?  It’s all about managing our emotions, then taking responsiblity and focusing on how we want to be. Unless we had an extraordinary parent or teacher, most of us don’t learn

Read More

D’you react or respond?

What’s your way – d’you tend to react, or, respond to life? Recently we’ve been looking at how expectations can result in frustration and disappointment, at how the beliefs that fuel our expectations keep us in a box, limiting our choices. When we don’t achieve

Read More

Loving messages

How aware are you of the messages you give to your children? How do you show delight in your child? We all know that our children feel valued and loved when we give them our warmth, love and attention and show delight in who they

Read More

Nurturing creativity

These past few weeks, we’ve been looking at the topic of parenting. Our role as parents, I see, is to prepare our children for life, teaching them to be responsible and care for themselves and the world around them. Throughout the process, we can look

Read More

Our essential nature.

When you look at a new born baby, what do you see? I see innocence, pure light, love, joy… and infinite possibilities. I see a diamond! Like the precious stone, babies come in different sizes, colours and cuts and they have many different facets. Our

Read More

All we need is love

These past few weeks we’ve been looking at one of the challenges of parenting – taking action, asking for support, when your intuition tells you that something needs attention and you have no idea where that might lead. What can stop us from taking action?

Read More

A moment of choice

Our daughter went to boarding school in England when she was 10 going on 11. There, she was bullied for a number of years. Not interested in clothes, make-up or boys, she was marginalised and attributed with being either ‘weird’ or ‘gay’. The fact that

Read More

A mother’s intuition

We’ve all heard the expression a ‘mother’s intuition’ and typically we understand this to mean that a mother ‘knows’ when something is amiss. What I’ve learned is that it’s one thing to hear our intuition, it can be quite another to find the courage to

Read More

Taking care of diamonds – our children

Most parents say that parenting is one of the most rewarding jobs in the world – and it can be one of the toughest. It doesn’t come with an instruction manual! Caring for a child who is seen to be ‘different’ or who has an

Read More

Speaking up

The key to any relationship, personal or professional, is to be our self and be able manage any differences. ‘Be all things unto all men’ encourages us to be seen for who we are so that people recognise who we are and the calibre of

Read More

Conflict – or – opportunity to understand?

What is your pattern when it comes to managing differences with others?  Do you … tend to stand your ground and blame the other do everything to avoid conflict look for a compromise see an opportunity to clarify and understand the other more, to collaborate

Read More

Finding a way – when the children leave home

Children leave home for different reasons – to go to boarding school or university, to live with a partner, to live independently, perhaps even to escape mum and dad. Most of us long to see our children happy, independent, confident yet when the day comes

Read More

Finding a way …through divorce

You feel exhausted, you don’t know what to do next, you just want to find a way out of the chaos. Your partner has just announced they no longer want to stay in your relationship. You don’t know how you will ever survive alone. You’ve

Read More